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I truly believe in "Fardu Qifayah" (is the spelling correct?). If as muslims, our sense of community is strong, then why are there people who have a string of children who cannot even manage their own lives properly? Does the religion advocate this? I highly disagree. This is when goodwill has been abbused.
I read with interest that one of the "best mother" award went to this lady who had four children. All of whom are graduates. It was a television program. Can't really recall if her husband divorced her or passed away. It protrayed an enactment of their lives.
They were poor folk. Sometimes, they didn't even have enough money to eat, or pay their electricity bills. But what really struck me was that she didn't try hard (in my opinion). She stayed home to look after the children. Of course there were bursaries that she relied on to get them through school. So, cost of education wasn't that big a worry. It was really the daily substinence. Sardonistically, I feel that it was her children who deserved the award, not her. They are much stronger. Given the situation, most children would just give up. They persevered and went through the tough times with her. She dragged them. They are the true heros. Not her.
Find work, give up one of your kids, learn to work from home or have a small business. These are all options. Instead of saying how uneducated she herself was (I'm not saying that she said it), or not having a business mind (which I find totally crap), learn a skill and make a living out of it. Not expecting or asking for handouts. And yes, she did say she was grateful for all the help she got. Alhamdulilah!
But really, how difficult is it to look after four school going children? Is it more difficult that racking your brains to find out how to earn more money to give them a better life? Is it more important to spend time and encourage your children to be successful? Well, it may be. But how successful are your children? Do they give back to society? Do they give their time, effort, love to people who are old, alone, destitute, in need of care? Then, in my humble opinion, she didn't really do a good enough job.
We must try and try and try our best to educate our community, our fellow men. Fardu Qifayah should not only stop with muslims. It should be shared by the community. Give till it hurts, for the true reward does not lie in the ability to purchase a high priced car, apartment or lifestyle.
We all talk. And we do little. I am equally guilty of it. The youngsters hanging out under the void deck. How many of us would just walk away. Or gossip when they turn out to be gangsters, snatch thiefs, bums? The reality is that we fool ourselves by comforting us that it is because of their poor upbringing. That they've mapped out the path themselves. Wrong. It is our poor upbringing if we speak in this way. Insya Allah, I will do my best to help. Insya Allah!
I seek peace, just like anyone else. But satan's always hanging around. Those who've given in to him are suffering. Deffered gratification. Suffer now, enjoy later. Enjoy now, you may not be able to hold on to what you have, and I'm not talking only about the physical needs or wants.
The truck driver who spends his time catching Zzz during the time when he should be working should not complain that his salary is low. The manager who pushes his work to that of his subordinates should not complain that his hours are long when he occasionally goes into extra time. The boss who is a slave-driver to his workers should not detest of the high taxes that he is paying.
The road sweeper who clears clogged drains, the fireman who risks his life, the soldier who dies during a training excercise. These are the heros. We hardly remember them. The road sweeper ensures that our cleaniness and hygenic needs are met so that we can go on our lives without much hindrence to floods or mosquitoes. The fireman braves flames to save another life. A soldier pushes himself to the limit so that he may save our lives and property. Alhamdulilah!
We all have a part to play, and play it well we should. I strive to lead by example. I strive to be a better person. I am human. I am flawed. But I must stay true to my natural disposition. I must stay the course. For what is a few short years on earth compared to the "korner" I would get to relax in His Promise? Insya Allah!
jahwsl
0149
11th Nov 06'
I read with interest that one of the "best mother" award went to this lady who had four children. All of whom are graduates. It was a television program. Can't really recall if her husband divorced her or passed away. It protrayed an enactment of their lives.
They were poor folk. Sometimes, they didn't even have enough money to eat, or pay their electricity bills. But what really struck me was that she didn't try hard (in my opinion). She stayed home to look after the children. Of course there were bursaries that she relied on to get them through school. So, cost of education wasn't that big a worry. It was really the daily substinence. Sardonistically, I feel that it was her children who deserved the award, not her. They are much stronger. Given the situation, most children would just give up. They persevered and went through the tough times with her. She dragged them. They are the true heros. Not her.
Find work, give up one of your kids, learn to work from home or have a small business. These are all options. Instead of saying how uneducated she herself was (I'm not saying that she said it), or not having a business mind (which I find totally crap), learn a skill and make a living out of it. Not expecting or asking for handouts. And yes, she did say she was grateful for all the help she got. Alhamdulilah!
But really, how difficult is it to look after four school going children? Is it more difficult that racking your brains to find out how to earn more money to give them a better life? Is it more important to spend time and encourage your children to be successful? Well, it may be. But how successful are your children? Do they give back to society? Do they give their time, effort, love to people who are old, alone, destitute, in need of care? Then, in my humble opinion, she didn't really do a good enough job.
We must try and try and try our best to educate our community, our fellow men. Fardu Qifayah should not only stop with muslims. It should be shared by the community. Give till it hurts, for the true reward does not lie in the ability to purchase a high priced car, apartment or lifestyle.
We all talk. And we do little. I am equally guilty of it. The youngsters hanging out under the void deck. How many of us would just walk away. Or gossip when they turn out to be gangsters, snatch thiefs, bums? The reality is that we fool ourselves by comforting us that it is because of their poor upbringing. That they've mapped out the path themselves. Wrong. It is our poor upbringing if we speak in this way. Insya Allah, I will do my best to help. Insya Allah!
I seek peace, just like anyone else. But satan's always hanging around. Those who've given in to him are suffering. Deffered gratification. Suffer now, enjoy later. Enjoy now, you may not be able to hold on to what you have, and I'm not talking only about the physical needs or wants.
The truck driver who spends his time catching Zzz during the time when he should be working should not complain that his salary is low. The manager who pushes his work to that of his subordinates should not complain that his hours are long when he occasionally goes into extra time. The boss who is a slave-driver to his workers should not detest of the high taxes that he is paying.
The road sweeper who clears clogged drains, the fireman who risks his life, the soldier who dies during a training excercise. These are the heros. We hardly remember them. The road sweeper ensures that our cleaniness and hygenic needs are met so that we can go on our lives without much hindrence to floods or mosquitoes. The fireman braves flames to save another life. A soldier pushes himself to the limit so that he may save our lives and property. Alhamdulilah!
We all have a part to play, and play it well we should. I strive to lead by example. I strive to be a better person. I am human. I am flawed. But I must stay true to my natural disposition. I must stay the course. For what is a few short years on earth compared to the "korner" I would get to relax in His Promise? Insya Allah!
jahwsl
0149
11th Nov 06'
posted by Jeremy Amir Hamzah Wong Sheh Liang | 1:32 am
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